Most people think that in order to be self confident they must have experiences or attributes that support confidence.
But, what if you don’t have any particular abilities or qualities to appreciate?
What if you don’t see yourself as a success, especially if you’re not exactly where you want to be yet?
Have no fear! Your body has a confidence booster built in standard.
There is an old saying I’m sure you’ve heard – “fake it till you make it.”
This is exactly what to do when you’re not feeling confident.
When I say to fake it till you make it, I specifically mean to fake the body language of confidence.
Tony Robbins is famous for saying, “emotion is created by motion,” and when it comes to confidence, nothing could be more accurate.
If you stand or walk confidently, even when you’re not in the best state of mind, your mind will start internalizing the shift in posture and you actually will feel more confident.
It may sound odd, but just try it.
Wherever you are, sit in your chair like you would be sitting if you just found out your significant other dumped you (if you aren’t in a relationship, imagine something you could be depressed about in your life at the moment).
Take a few seconds to really feel the hurt.
I can’t see you right now but I can imagine you are sunk into the chair, your shoulders are slumped forward and your head and eyes are looking down.
Does your body have strength and muscle tone to it, or are you limp and weak?
Are you frowning or smiling?
How does your body (and mind) feel in this moment?
Shake out the bad thoughts. Reset your body and your mind to something neutral like…
That will do.
Now, think of the best memory with your significant other (keep it PG or other parts of your body may really change “posture”) or think of any happy experience in the past year.
Again, really feel the happiness.
How are you sitting?
Where are your shoulders?
Is your back more erect and strong in the chair?
Are your eyes looking up?
Do you even have a smile on your face?
How do you feel?
Your body and facial expressions can say a lot when you are in a peak state, whether the state is good or bad.
When you are feeling depressed, you look depressed. When you are feeling confident, you look confident.
Your body posture, your breathing, and your eye patterns all give a huge clue to what state of mind you are in.
How do we use this to our advantage?
Fake it till you make it!
If you sit, stand, or walk with confident posture, it will be nearly impossible to feel anything but confident.
Warning!! It’s also extremely difficult to feel happy if you are in a sad or depressed body posture — so be careful.
Start to notice your daily patterns by paying attention to your body at all times.
Use confident body language to help yourself feel better, even when you may have reasons to be sad.
What exactly is confident body posture?
There are a number of different points to master confident body language, but here are the top three that will instantly help you feel more confident.
Confidence starts with a lifted chest. Don’t run out and buy a push-up bra, because it’s much easier than it sounds. Stand in front of a mirror and lift the top of your chest so it’s facing the ceiling more than the mirror. The ribs lift upward and it should look like you just filled your lungs with a breath of air.
We want a confident and proud chest. Imagine you just won a gold medal and you are standing on top of the podium. Show the medal with confidence and pride.
A confident chin however, is not held higher than normal, it is simply neutral.
A chin held too high symbolizes a snotty or rude attitude, as if the person is looking down onto others.
Conversely, a lowered chin may increase feelings of fear and doubt.
We want to meet life head on.
Face to face. Eye to eye.
Don’t look down and avoid others and don’t look up and away from others either.
Be confident and meet their gaze directly.
Look straight in front of you as if you are looking to the furthest point on the horizon.
The last piece to a confident body posture is the crown, or the top of your head.
No, you don’t need to wear an actual crown to feel confident, but this simple trick will make you feel like a king or queen.
Imagine there is a string with one end attached to the top of your head and the other end connected to a helicopter hovering directly above you.
Now, imagine the helicopter gently moves upward, stretching your spine and lifting you onto your toes.
Hold the upper body posture and let yourself come back to a normal stance with your feet.
You should instantly feel two or three inches taller.
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